Tanya Semerad 0:00
Hi I'm Tanya Semerad, former lawyer and business leader turned coach, and you're listening to high performance made simple, the show for people who want more clarity, influence and wellbeing. So you can live and lead more courageously unlock your full potential, and inspire others to do the same. Let's do this.
Tanya Semerad 0:49
Hello, friend, I'm so excited, you're here because we're going to get you habits clarity, you're going to understand which habits you're doing, and not doing that create success for you, or isn't creating success for you. So you will be able to focus on what matters and bring your goals to life with more momentum. We're talking about habits clarity, because this is what produces outcomes. It's what you're doing today, yesterday, over the last few weeks and months, that is creating the tangible results that you're getting now. It's the chair you're sitting in, is the shoes you're walking in, feel that it's the clothes you're wearing. Well, my hope, hopefully, or not, depending on what you're doing. It's what you're able to do. So if you're aiming for a better result in life, or you've got bigger goals or bigger targets to hit, all you want a result that is just different in any way to what you're getting now that it makes sense that you're going to check in with your habits. And that's why I made this episode for you. We're going to check in on your habits and make any necessary adjustments. So if you haven't got clarity yet on who you are, who you need to become to achieve your goals, how you want to have relationships and impact others, or what your goals are, then check out the first few episodes on self clarity, goal, clarity, and relationship clarity as well. And even if you did get clarity very recently, my friend say a few months ago, or you had something big happen and you had an epiphany, you had this moment of clarity, say a year or two ago. Get clarity again. Because chances are some things in your life have changed since then, maybe it's not things maybe some people have changed. Or maybe you're just ready for some new goals. I see you working. I love being clear on who I am, what I want, how I want to have relationships and lead people. But what I really love is bringing it to life. Because my clarity isn't anywhere else. It's unique to me, like my own signature. My clarity is something that has been dug up from the earth of me and intentionally put together assembled like a sexy Frankenstein. Let There Be Life. I am unleashing myself into the world every day, and it feels so good. In the first few episodes of high performance made simple, we work through all of those pieces together, we go digging together, because clarity on the hole isn't something you just get once in your life as the big moment. Instead, you'll have many moments, some bigger than others. But many of these moments of clarity if you're intentional about getting them because sometimes you can miss it, you can miss the opportunity for clarity, and you only get it with hindsight, wasted time wasted energy and who wants that. So the way I like to talk about clarity is as jewels, jewels of clarity, and the more of these jewels you collect, the more clarity you get. This means you can be more you make decisions confidently lead a life that feels truly satisfying. Like the most delicious meal you've eaten, and you could have more but you're just you're just perfect. You're good. high performers know who they are and what they're about. They know what they're working towards. They're clear on the impact and legacy they want to leave. And they immediately tell you even when you haven't asked because this clarity is demonstrated in their actions. It's oozing out of their pores. It's a very attractive pheromone. We can call it that too. So ownership of self is sexy. It's confident and it lights something up in people that makes them want to be more sure of themselves feel inspired. Yes, they've collected many joules of clarity and are crystal clear on their habits, practices actions that show and tell people, the best of them. This is why they're so consistently great able to move people. Think of the people you go to for advice. The people you go to personally because you know them or can get an intro are the people whose books you read, the podcasts you listen to the accounts you follow, there's something magnetic about these people. So what does having clarity sound like, we can use me as an example, I have clearly articulated my clarity in my values. I have these as foundations of clarity, like level one jewels, I've sprinkled, I'm clear on who I want to be. I'm clear on how I want to impact people and lead people personally and professionally. That's called relationship clarity. I'm clear on how I want to think and process thoughts as my best self, which has self clarity. And I'm clear on my lifestyle goals, and my career goals. The Level Two clarity drills would be about how I create alignment with other people. It's when we show our jewels to each other, and we appreciate each other's drill. So if that's not forthcoming from the other person, I'm so clear on how I want to be I challenge people caringly, obviously, to get their own clarity. And then we can create alignment. Personally, this works. And in business, this works. And it means we're both or if it's a group of people we're in for a smooth ride, even when there is trouble. Because we know how to deal with things together we have that code, we have that manuscript we have that understanding of what's important and how we're going to work together. It's either that or a bumpy roller coaster ride, we get pigeon poop in your mouth, you can't see properly and the roller coaster falls off the tracks. It is dangerous, because that's what happens when you keep misaligning and falling out with people at tastes like crap. We'll get to that in future episodes. So, relationship clarity, for me, I'm clear on the kind of relationships, influence and leadership I want to have. So how I am with other people is clearly governed by three clarity, jewels, care, energy, and empowerment. Then self clarity, being the kind of thoughts I want to have, and intentionally bring into my head every day, even on days when I believe I'm entitled to be pissed off or tired. So this helps me be consistent in myself and make confident decisions that are aligned with me my authentic self. These words are authentic, inspiring, and reasonable. If you want to know why I chose those words, give Episode Two self clarity, listen, then,
Tanya Semerad 8:29
I've got gold clarity for my lifestyle, and my Korea. Remember, we are whole people. We're not just work robots. I'm not just love pandas at home. We are whole people. And so we need to understand our entire life goals and how they all fit together. Because if they don't, then you're going to be pretty miserable. You're not going to achieve your goals and you're not going to feel supported by the people in your life. It's going to be hectic. So when you have goal clarity, rather my goal clarity, the things that I want to experience in my life in order to feel like I really wrong that wet tea towel out. every last drop, and I'm feeling so satisfied in my life, for me, is that empowering relationship, that empowering, intimate relationship with lots of laughter. Now empowering to me is not vague. empowering to me means secure, reliable, deep. It means there is great amounts of respect and trust. And that to me is empowering. Because I believe in someone. And doing that allows me to spread my wings to believe in myself to that's what an empowering relationship with lots of laughter means to me. I've also gotten here, one or two kids to love. I've also got financial empowerment and I've been specific here with automated income. I want to travel to the Philippines three times per year, all my family moved to the Philippines after COVID is pretty beautiful. I've also got here become a well known coach, be physically fit healthy and strong, have a beautiful and spacious home and learn to speak basic Tagalog, which is the main language I speak in the Philippines, I need to get myself around. And also, I'm really interested in Arabic. I've then highlighted which goals are goals for this year. And then I've broken each one down into steps. I've then pre booked those steps as actions in my calendar for the next 30 and 60 days minimum. For example, I've pre booked exercise so it doesn't get booked over. And I've also been realistic about it. I've left enough time before that pre booked block of time to get to where I'm going to exercise. And I've also allowed for time after to freshen up if I need to. Well, it's good to freshen up. No one likes to be out. Let's just say it's good to freshen up to freshen up and also get back to my computer. So I've broken down my steps to financial empowerment as well, by having a clear monthly goal, a monthly number every month. And I've booked those daily non negotiable actions in that Take me towards that number you get the jest. I'm not some kind of maniac either. I've got, I've got time for fun booked into and that's something I hesitated saying because I've really had to challenge myself to do that. I had some stuff come up around will do I deserve to have fun I really should be working is their responsibility. I'm accountable, all that kind of stuff. And then I used the Sub Player technique to rewire my thoughts and change my actions. So check out that episode to the substitute player technique to learn how to change your thoughts really quickly. So when we're clear on ourselves, it makes sense that we need to check in, we need to check in with our daily habits, the stuff we're doing, so we can make sure they're supporting and not sabotaging your goals, right. Chances are that your dreams and goals feel somewhere beyond you right now, requiring you to step up in a new way. Or maybe sidestep or back step all together to take a step back in some areas of your work and life. My friend, this is the kind of clarity that creates the change you're wanting. It helps you make decisions faster, helps you act on those decisions without delay, and it helps you back yourself. You're not looking to everyone else for approval. For me with this clarity, I was able to bounce back after I was made redundant early in my career. I was a lawyer during the global financial crisis. And then that toe cutter came in and I was chopped off. But I wasn't down for too long because I gained clarity on who I wanted to be. And what made me happy and thought about the types of roles the work the industries that would allow me to express that. Of course, I am not a maniac. Again, I honored the sadness, I honored the devastation. But I didn't dwell on it for months. It was you know, a couple of weeks, I was also able to end my five and a half year relationship. That was very sad. Ending that made me almost homeless, almost homeless in a new city. You know, when your finances your life, your everything so blended in with someone else you don't even know where you start and they began you're just so in it. But I was willing to work through it because I gained relationship clarity and knew what needed to be done. Before we walked down the aisle. I managed to rent a flat. But I had no furniture for ages and I slept on a blowup mattress for three months too. But even then, as I pulled the duvet up to my chin, I'd look up at the ceiling and was grateful I had a roof over my head. Yes, I couldn't have friends over for but that's fine. I was also able to quit my job as Head of Marketing for international businesses so that I could start my own business. I gained clarity while I was head of marketing on what my life style and career goals were are. And that led me to getting certified to coach which I did in my own time. Obviously, I did business refresher courses. I did International Business with low at uni but I needed a more practical approach to business and setting up business. And that made me really confident about what I was doing. I also spoke about it I told people my dream and eventually was offered a speaking gigs through a friend, a very dear friend, that led to winning a 10 person coaching contract for a corporate client in Dubai. Resignation was handed in. No doubts about that. So with clarity, you know what to do, you know where your time needs to be spent, and you know who you need to spend it with. Even if it's to spend time finding out, spend time researching, that is the action. That's what you need to be doing. So you can figure out what you need to know who you need to know, to achieve your goals. So let's do this. Think about what you're clear on. Think about your dreams. Think about your goals for the next three months. Now, what habits do you currently have that are supporting you to achieve I think of two or three?
Tanya Semerad 16:09
Do you have the habit of exercise? Do you exercise most days you enjoy that reset and endorphin rush that you get that runner's high? Do you stand often, you got yourself a stand up desk so not sitting the whole time? That's a really great habit. Do you have a coach? Do you have a support team to help you navigate and accelerate? Do you have the good habit of blocking time and actually honoring what you've blocked it for? And clearly, it's for what matters most to you every day? Next, what aren't you doing that you know, you need to start or do more of to achieve your goals? Think of one thing? If you're struggling to think of anything, ask yourself this. Who do I need to become to become the person that already has? What I want? Who is already doing what I want to be doing? What are they doing that? I'm not doing consistently yet? Think of one thing?
Tanya Semerad 17:31
Next, what are you currently doing that you need to stop doing? What is sabotaging your progress? Choose one or two things? For example, do you need to stop saying yes to so much? Is saying yes. So much that you don't have enough time for what's important to you? Do you need to stop people pleasing? Do you need to learn how to be more courageous to implement that? Do you need to stop jumping from activity to activity. So you can take a moment to check your map to check the direction for where you're actually headed. To get clear on who you are, what you want at this stage of life and reprioritize. Now this next one might hit a nerve. But do you need to stop being so distracted? How much time do you spend scrolling through social media? Scrolling through the news? What's your screen time like? You can check your app usage after this in the screen time settings on your phone and set some new time limits on there. For example, I've got a five minute limit on Instagram. That's fantastic. Just gives me a little notification. And I just switched it off or I don't switch it off. I close the app. Maybe you're a social butterfly, you socializing and drinking too much. You've gotten over the new normal, and you're creating a really social normal. Yeah. Are you online shopping too much? Maybe you're addicted to making excuses. What are you currently doing that you need to stop doing? Think of one or two things?
Tanya Semerad 19:20
And finally, what is driving you? Why are you motivated to change stuff in your life? When it gets tough because life always does even when you're doing stuff for someone else and not for yourself. It does get tough. Who is worth fighting for? Name them.
Tanya Semerad 19:47
Getting this kind of clarity is what sets high performers up for the win. It's what separates high performers from average performers, people who have average relationships, average life Leadership, average health, average life experiences. And of course, there's nothing horrifically wrong with being average. But you're listening to high performance made simple, not high performance made average. So I know I can push you here because it's what you came here for. You want to know how to achieve your goals, make change faster, go deeper, get more meaning in what you're doing. And of course, bring more joy to your journey. So this is it. This is habits clarity. So now it's time to get on the court. The court that is your life, and you go to play ball, go from ball bag to baller, you know someone who is only just holding it all together to someone who is playing the game of their life. So your challenge should you wish to accept it is to block 30 minutes in your calendar today. I'm saying that after this episode, blocked 30 minutes either for today, or for some time in the next 48 hours to put your habits clarity into action. This could look like taking a look into your calendar, both work and personal, then stripping out condensing or canceling. Anything that you've got clear that you need to stop doing. This is about creating space in the create space for the stuff you want to start. Now if this is going to impinge on agreements you've got with other people, especially if it's for work or family. And it would be rude to just cancel it then challenge the organizer or others to think of ways that the meeting can be discontinued or absorbed elsewhere. Challenge them, you might be surprised about the answers that you get. Oh, finally, finally, Sandra. Finally, stables. I'm so glad you asked this. I've been wondering how to get rid of this meeting too, but I thought you wanted it. You'll be surprised. Now if you're not the boss, or you don't have this much influence with people, then you can share your ideas over email, or in that particular meeting for how to reduce or restructure things so that you can save everyone more time. Same goes for your partner in love, share your clarity, asked them to share that and then realign on accountabilities and expectations. So you're both getting what you need now, at this stage in your lives. And don't be afraid to ask relationships are more likely to end when you don't align. When you don't create the opportunity to work together. When you don't create the spaces that each of you need to achieve the things that are important to you individually. To help. I've made you a habits clarity PDF, it's totally typable routable, you can tap into it. So head to www dot Tonya leslie.com forward slash habits clarity to download it there. I'll also put the link in the show notes and get your plan in one place. Most importantly, I want you to have fun, have fun, designing your new, uplifting, exciting daily habits that are moving you closer to what you want to who you want to be the results you want to have in life. And if you'd like to support the high performance made simple podcast, you'd be implementing a very powerful habit, helping others get clarity and make change that allow them to be even better to allow them to go to that next level in their work. So please share it with three awesome people. Maybe they're your friends, or your colleagues or that love partner in life. To catch the latest from me. You can follow me on LinkedIn at Tanya Semerad as well as Instagram and Tiktok at Tanya underscore highperformance and I look forward to tuning in with you again soon. Ciao for now.
